In the thrall of fear, pride and hatred sometimes a person commits such mistakes that I regret all my life. These divorced women years later admitted their mistakes and told me what I regret the most. Their example can help young couples not to step on the same rake. It is reported portal of Psychologies.
“I regret not asking for help when needed”
Remembering ex-husband, sorry I was silent, feeling that they cannot cope and need help. We then briefly was married, I just gave birth to a daughter. It seemed to me that I have to be perfect, take care of baby, housework and cooking, but to look like a Victoria’s Secret model. I filed for divorce thinking that will get rid of stress, which themselves have created. Was angry and upset with husband who didn’t understand what it is. Now I realize that it was necessary to ask for his help. Carolina, 29 years
“Not yet figured out themselves, before marriage”
If I didn’t hurry I have married, feeling strength and hope, not fear and hopelessness. I would understand that in 20-30 years we choose our partner according to other criteria than 40. Victoria, 33 years
“Didn’t have the guts to finish it all before”
After the wedding the husband has different views about what should be the relationship. We fought all the time. I didn’t have the courage and understanding to recognize a problem and to do something. Maria, 38 years
“I did not realize that I was more than somebody’s wife”
I had no independence. I myself have created unhealthy dynamics of the relationship, considering her husband is more important than yourself. I were not able to recognize the unhealthy dynamics because I completely surrendered to the power of another. Anna, 36 years
“Didn’t take responsibility”
I didn’t think about responsibility. I was looking for guilty and wonder what could change in behavior. It seemed to me that after the divorce, life will be perfect, because the problem was husband. I didn’t realize that marriage is a relationship that can develop cycles and should do more to solve problems. The divorce was a disaster for children, and even so I regret it. Emma, 23 years
“Could not always stand up for yourself”
I conceded during the proceedings, was kept of the experiences in themselves and took care of his needs. Now I became stronger than 10 years ago. Acting differently in a second marriage. Lisa, 28 years
Recall that When the woman was 71 years old, died her eldest son. At the funeral ceremony, she met 17-year-old boy, who sunk into the soul.
As reported by the portal “Znayu” these 5 factors lead to an inevitable divorce.
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